Hi Officer Friendly, I read about so many woman being killed by their abusers when they finally get up the nerve to leave them. It doesn’t seem that there’s anything they can do, except leave the state and live under an assumed name. What are any effective steps you think a woman should take? Besides killing him first.
Domestic Violence occurs among all ages, genders, races, religions, educational backgrounds, and socioeconomic groups. The actual act occurs when a family member, any family member, partner or ex-partner, attempts to physically or psychologically dominate or harm another. In most states, for the act to be a crime, a visible injury must be present. It is estimated that 2 to 4 million women are victims of Domestic Violence every year. 2000 of these assaults will result in death.
Taken from the California Penal Code: Any person who willfully inflicts upon a person who is his or her spouse, former spouse, cohabitant, former cohabitant, or the mother or father of his or her child, corporal injury resulting in a traumatic condition, is guilty of a felony.
As used in this section, “traumatic condition” means a condition of the body, such as a wound or external or internal injury, whether of a minor or serious nature, caused by a physical force.
My recommendation is to leave any abusive relationship. When the decision is made, call the police for a civil standby so that you can be protected, while making your exit. If an act of violence has occurred, call the police and let them do their job. Ask for an emergency protective order. This will legally prohibit the offender from contacting you for a period of time, usually one week. Apply to the court for a permanent restraining order. Take what you need, take what you can get, and go. Staying in an abusive relationship only propagates the problem. Children who grow up in abusive homes grow up to be abusers or abused themselves. There are lots of agencies and groups ready to help. No one need stay in an abusive relationship or live out of their car to escape one.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline number is (800) 799-7233, or for hearing impaired, (800) 787-3224 (TTY).
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