Umm, I forgot to forward questions to Officer Friendly.

January 3, 2007 | Karin's Blog | 21 comments

I promise to hit him up next week. 🙂

So, my house is back to normal, (YAY!!!!) but my office is still in a bit of disarray but it’s getting there. Oh, btw ONCE IN A LIFETIME LOVE by Keith Urban is playing on my iPod. I hope he and Nichol make it. I really love those two. Just once I’d like to see two good people make it in that crazy world. It’s really difficult. Hell it’s difficult under the best of conditions to maintain a relationship of any kind much less a long term marriage.

Sometimes, love isn’t enough. I guess that’s what I love most about writing romance, because come what may, in my books love is enough.

I was wondering the other day if I will ever write another genre. I decided if I do, there will have to be a love story somewhere in there. Love is powerful mojo. Love fuels emotions from both spectrums of the emotional scale. The saying, love and hate are separated by a fine line is very true.

I was going to say hate is much stronger when it’s directed toward someone you love, and that may be true but I can think of many instances where hate is fueled by other things than betrayal of a loved one.

I like to give my protagonists real reasons to love and hate, to be afraid, to be distrustful. I don’t care for the stereotypical: guy walks in a finds his fiancé in bed with his best friend or vice versa, and therefore protag can’t trust the opposite sex. I like to go deeper. I use abandonment issues or mommy or daddy issues sometimes. How about you? What have you used to cast a hero or heroine in a certain mold that only the realization of love and growth will break them out of?



  1. Edie Ramer

    Karin, my current book is a WF, not a typical romance, but two of the three women protagonists are scarred by their childhood. The third woman thinks her role is to be someone she’s not on the inside. In her case, it’s a societal thing and her own perception holding her back.

    I agree that there has to be more than a cheating former lover. Bad things happen to people all the time. If that’s what’s keeping the hero/heroine apart, I want to say “Get over it.”

  2. Karin

    Edie, I wrote a character once, a female, with no baggage. It was kind of fun. For JADED I had to take charismatic Jase and give him a few dark issues, reasonable ones to explain why he doesn’t do relationships.It was also difficut to come up with a worthy heroine for him. But I have. It wasn’t easy.
    My good friend next door is a child psychologist, she has been a great source for twisting up my villain.

  3. Amanda

    My childhood has really shaped the person I am, so sometimes it is hard to dig deep for my h/h for why they are the way they are. Have to give this some thought now. 🙂

  4. Karin

    🙂 Amanda.

  5. Poppy Southcott

    I tend to go with childhood trauma. I think it influences people in ways they may not even realize until some occurrence shocks them out of their old emotional patterns. Or they had the epiphany years earlier, and have become set in some sort of reactive pattern they need to now break free from. Either works.

  6. Karin

    Poppy, after the conversations we’ve had regarding all of this, I want to thank you for giving me lots of unique takes on life, same to you, Amanda. 😉

  7. Poppy

    I don’t think that’s a compliment! 🙂

  8. Karin

    C’mon, Poppy, you know I would never dis you. My comments were meant as a compliment. You have shown me, Miss-I-grew-up-in-Vanilla-land, that life is far more diverse and layered than I could have imagined. and the best part, just how truely facinating it is.

  9. Amie

    I like abandonment, abuse and parental issues too but I think it’s a fine line–how many times can we use it?

  10. Kristi

    I use abandonment/parental issues and I try to twist them around. In the current wip, my heroine was raised to run the family business – very much a man’s world…so she has a lot of the love-em-and-leave-em man’s mentality – it was fun to work that from a female perspective.

  11. Nicole Reising

    I’m with you – I like different reasons for the love/hate thing to come about. Any twist adds so much!


  12. Karin

    Amie, it is always a challenge to put a fresh twist on a tried and true *issue* 🙂 In my current wip my heroine was turned out at 16 by her mother, lot’s o baggage. And while she was a victim of not just her sugar daddy, but her mother as well, she doesn’t act the victim.

    Now my bad guy in this story is one twisted f*&%. His motivations are pretty icky. They are clinical action reaction type motives.

    Kristi, abandonment issues are great. In GOOD GIRL Ty has those issues with his mother. Her abandonment stemmed from her addiction to drugs. She woudln’t kick the habit for him and he found himself in a role of keeping her alive, and getting only grief from her when he wouldn’t beg borrow or steal her next fix for him.

  13. Karin

    Nicole, I have been really studying the law and order shows lately, especially the suv and crimminal intent ones. some of the story lines they come up with are incredible, and so believable. i love a good twist.

  14. Tracey

    I must have abandonment issues because all my heros and heroines are missing one or both parents (usually the mother) – I guess it comes from being a child of divorce and we lived with my Dad. Now that I’ve discivered that about myself – My next one should have two loving parents. :o)

  15. Edie Ramer

    Abandonment issues are good. In WF, I don’t need problems that extreme. Just good old-fashioned everyday parents with issues will do. Too negative, too tight-assed, too anything. LOL, the usual. People are weird, and that’s why they’re fun to write about.

  16. Karin

    Hey Tracey, my characters are usualy minus a parent as well, usually both. lol my mom asked me about that once. (they are happily amrried 51 years this year)

    Edie, I like everyday drama too, sometimes digging for the big angst is just too much. Like using a canon to kill a fly.

  17. Stephe

    Sorry to come in late on this, Karin, but it’s such a good topic I can’t resist…

    No doubt there–childhood really shapes you, and I do try to use that angle in unusual ways. But I have to say the most interesting (and fun) issue I’ve used to drive characters apart, though, is superstition (I write a lot of fantasy, though that would certainly work in non-fantastic world as well, I’m sure).

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