Defending romance

August 6, 2007 | Karin's Blog | 14 comments

Is it necessary? Does it bug you when someone smirks and says, “Oh, you read that crap?”

Or as a writer when someone says, “You write that smutty stuff?”

Or hear this from non romance writers, “When are you going to write a real book?”

Or when a friend, family member or casual acquaintances introduces you as the ‘porn writer’, does it offend you?

When you see an author behaving badly or publicly dissing the genre does it bug you?

With any one of these scenarios, do you feel the need to defend what you love to read and write?

And if you do, what do you say?



  1. Edie

    Karin, no one has ever said anything snarky about romances to me. People have told me they don’t read romance, but that’s fine with me. There are a few things I don’t read either.

  2. spyscribbler

    Mostly, I stare and nod and sigh to myself. But no one’s ever said that about romance to me; they have said such things about fiction.

    They say they only read non-fiction, as if reading fiction were a waste of time and idiotic pursuit. And after saying that, they go watch TV for hours a day, not minding in the least that it is fiction, too. *insert eye roll*

  3. Tracey

    I don’t feel the need to defend what I read and I don’t feel the need to defend what I write. If people have a problem with it, it’s their problem. I haven’t had much of an issue though. I am open to reading something new – and if they are too closed minded about that – pish – more fool them.

  4. Tracey

    BTW – love the Write Attitude – great site. 🙂

  5. Cele

    I am forever boggled at what people will say to someone. I am the type that if I were in your shoes would have a bevy of smart ass replies to fling back, beginning with

    “I didn’t know you were into porn. So did it meet with your standards?”

    My wittiness gets better with time.

  6. LaDonna

    Karin, hasn’t happened to me yet. Maybe because a lot of locals have no clue I write. LOL. But, after this baby gets launched, I’ll keep ya posted on any comments. Like Cele mentioned, I can’t believe the crap people say. It’s like they don’t have the brain-part that filters stuff. What’s with that?

  7. Mary

    Ladies let’s take a moment – okay everyone ready?

    Happy birthday to you
    Happy birthday to you
    Happy birthday dear Karin
    Happy birthday to you!!!!!!!!!

    Love from everyone who knows you.

  8. Allison Brennan

    I actually just don’t say much of anything. Last night I played bunko with some gals. I knew two of them, but most were new faces. One of the ones I knew well I know she loves my books. She’s telling the rest of the table about them, and basically says, “I just love mindless books where I don’t have to think. I can’t put them down.” Mindless? Ugh. But in context, it was a compliment. Other comments were similar. But they weren’t dissing the books, they were talking about how much they enjoyed them because they could lose themselves in the story. So I just smiled and said thank you.

  9. Karin

    Sorry, I’ve been MIA for the last 24. I have been a revising fool. I sent the revised (per my agent) version of JADED off to Lauren in the wee hours of the a.m. today. I wrote JADED back in January. Sent it off to my agent to take a gander. She had good suggestions, and every time I sat down to incorporate them, I found something else to change. What should have taken a couple of weeks took, with life interrupting, 7 weeks. BUT! It is much stronger
    and now, I will wait for Lauren’s stellar eye to make it even better.

  10. Karin

    Edie, I don’t get much in the way of dumb ass comments, but when I do they are doozies.

    Spy, lol, and television fiction is so melodramatic!

    Tracey, right on! I don’t defend either. Coz, quite frankly, I don’t care if people don’t what I write, and I have neither the time nor energy to argue why they should love what I love. To her own!
    And doesn’t The Write Attitude rock? It was Edie’s brainchild. I’m glad we all did it. It makes me smile when I go there.

    Hey, Cele, I love your porn comeback. I may serve that up to a special someone.

  11. Karin

    LaDonna, ignorance for them is your bliss. as far as what is with people and their dumbass comments? ignorance, jealousy, ignorance, jealousy…

    Mary, I hope your friend Karin has a great day! She deserves it.

    Hey, A. I love bunko! We have a great group of ladies. We’ve been together for almost 7 years. So, the mindless comment, I can totally understand the way in which is was meant. I hope the person who said it made a good margarita to help it go down easier. 😉

  12. Tracey

    Happy Birthday for yesterday 🙂

  13. V. J.

    I have friends who say my books are an “easy” read.

    They seem to mean it as a compliment, though it kind of bugs me.

  14. Karin

    VJ, I wonder if they have any idea how much work went into that ‘easy’ read?

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