Don’t Worry, Be Happy
Said with a Caribbean accent. Okay, so this week is conference week, and I know there are a whole lotta writers out there stressing big time. Many for different reasons, but a lot of you for the same reason: The stress of being on. For some that means pretending. My advice? Be yourself. Relax. Have fun. Yes, yes we are all on to a certain extent, but when you’re on make it a super-sized version of your personality, not someone you aren’t. That comes across as stiff, false, and well, not genuine. And we ladies can smell a fake a mile away. I know, I know, there are some nasties out there, and you feel you have to put the walls up, but you really don’t. Here’s how I deal with them: I do not engage. Who needs that crap? At conference or at home? I so do not have time for other people’s created drama. I’m sure there will be more than one or two tempests’ in a few teacups this year, there always are. My advice? Ignore it, and for the love of God, DO NOT ADD FUEL TO THE FLAME! Walk away from that crap.
Look, when you get a bunch of women together there are bound to be some claws. Some sniping, some sideways looks and some downright rudeness. And it isn’t restricted to one certain group. It’s across the board. But here’s the thing: This will be my fourth conference, and I have never ever encountered one rude person. Not a one! I have never seen anyone being rude to anyone else, in fact, what I see most of the time are smiles. Okay, well, I see a few ladies wandering around in a daze, but other then that, it’s all good. It is what you make it. I have always approached conference as a friendly adventure. A time to connect, learn a few things but mostly to have fun.
So, for those of you who are nervous as hell about conference this year, take a deep breath, slowly exhale and smile a real I’m-going-to-have-way-too-much-fun smile! And, seriously, have fun!!! And please, if you see me, come say hello!
Oh, and I’m going to try and blog with updates, but don’t hold your breath!