It’s Sunday

November 2, 2008 | Karin's Blog | 10 comments


 And I really have no clue where the time goes.  It’s been two weeks and a day since the wedding!  But it feels like a lifetime ago!  The house is quiet today.  The kids are at the Raider game, hubby is at the grocery store.  I’m making a slammin’ pot of chili and then the hordes will descend after the game.  


I love having the kids and their friends here.  It’s loud, and fun and cozy.  It’s kind of how my life is.  When my brother was out for the wedding he commented on how he fit right into the chaos of the house.  He also commented on how he didn’t think he could take a steady diet of it.  He likes his quiet house. I wouldn’t mind that once in awhile, but that isn’t in the cards for me right now. And once I get my hands of a grandbaby, well, I will be flying in the clouds.  But, sigh the kids should wait.  They have a lot to do. My son-in-law has another year to go to get his degree, they need to be in their own place and my daughter needs a new car.


I look back sometimes and think had I carefully planned out my life it might have been pretty boring.  Kind of like how I feel about plotting a book.  At heart I’m a pantser, but I have to say an outline isn’t a bad thing.  It’s like a To Do list for me.  I like to know what is ahead of me for the week.  I like To Do lists, and they keep me on track, much as an outline does with my stories, and I use the outline with the understanding that at anytime if my characters deviate from it, they are allowed to.  It makes life more interesting.


My life is a paradox that way.  I’m a control freak, more so the older I get, but when there is a plan and it’s followed down to the letter, I’m bored.  Hubby and I once took off on the Harley for four days.  All we knew was that we were headed south.  First night was Carmel, then down Hwy 1. We spent the second night in Pismo Beach stopping at all points in between.  Coming home was just as fun.  We don’t go much these days, my household isn’t one you can just lock the door behind you and look ahead.  We have pets, the kids and well, there is just stuff.


But one day. So for now it’s status quo.  Mi vida loca.  And I’m down with it.

How about you?  Are you an orderly person or do you wake up not knowing where the end of the day will find you?


















  1. Mary

    while I enjoy the quite, I also like a little chaos, but not too much. And I never have to do lists or plan anything or budget anything. That is what hubby is for, he is the one that can not do anything without analyzing it to death. Me I am spontaneous, dangerous and never know how it will all end. But it makes my life and days somewhat exciting (if it doesn’t get me in trouble).

  2. Edie

    I’m about the same. Things come up during the day. Not usually the same “things” in romance novels. Darn it.

    It would be fun to pick up and go. A friend bought an RV and plans to travel with her 2 dogs and 1 cat. She’s going to make a photo journey. It sounds lovely.

  3. LaDonna

    Hey Karin,

    I’m a pantser in writing and life! I’d love to get a cool Winnebago/van one day, and just take off with hubby on a roadtrip. Always thought that’d be a fun way to write; on the road seeing the sights! 🙂

  4. HollyD

    With 5 kids in a 1300 square feet house, quiet is a rare gift. I need my “to do” lists or I wouldn’t remember a thing. The kids are fully responsible for my memory lapses. That’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it.

    As for writing, when I start I know the main characters and what the happy ending will be. I will type up a couple notes and that’s it. I insist on happy endings in my writing, even in my darker pieces.

  5. B.E. Sanderson

    I used to be fun and spontaneous, but that was college. Nowadays, I’m happy just to have my water dish in one place and know where everything is going to be when I wake up in the morning. Maybe that’s the reason I do so much pantsing in my writing. I know what’s going to happen from one scene to the next in real life, so not knowing in my fiction keeps life exciting. Just a theory. =o)

  6. Cele

    I’m with BJ I use to be all up for change and surprise. I still love my surprises, but I like my quiet orderly life. I entertain once a year just to enjoy the turkey, chaos, and love. It makes me happy and reminds me how much I love the quiet in my small, cosy, home.

  7. Karin Tabke

    Mary, right now my house is very quiet. Eerily so.

    Edie, your friend has the right idea. I’d love to do that!

    LaD. I’m with you, writing on the road would be a blast! But I don’t want to cook on that little stove!

    Beth, panster on the page plotter in life. a good balance.

  8. Karin Tabke

    Cele, I look forward to the day one of my daughters takes over a holiday. I say that now, but at the end of the day it makes me happy too to have everyone here.

    Amanda, but you have such a cutie-pie in your grandson! Last night I kept running up to my office to write before and after dinner. The kids were all downstairs with their dad and laughing their butts off at whatever it was they were watching. I figured they needed dad time and resisted going down and joining in. I ended up knocking out a scene that I have been avoiding. It’s ugly, but it’s written.

  9. Amanda

    I have enough chaos in my life that I treasure the quiet moments when they come. Sometimes you treasure them more knowing they are few and far in between.

  10. Amanda

    Yes, I love my grandson, but sometimes I would like to have him be a visitor not a resident.

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