A New Week Approaches!

August 16, 2009 | Karin's Blog | 11 comments


And I’m still catching my breath from the weekend!

I spoke at the Yosemite RWA chapter this past Saturday, with my bestest GF’s Tawny Weber and Josie Brown along for company.  It was a great road trip.  Short and sweet.  The Yosemite RWA gals were great too.  Lot’s of energy, lot’s of smiles, my kind of girls.


I did an abbreviated version of my It’s Just Business, Don’t Take It Personally, talk, mostly because I wasn’t in the mood to be all preachy, coz I can be that way (hey!  I’m working on it.  It’s a hard habit to break).  Besides, with this group, I felt like I was hanging out with friends in my family room, so I went with the flow.


I came away with something, as I always hope to when I speak, and with this trip it was the reiteration of the fact that, no rules is the rule!  So many folks try to push what the pundits preach on others, and really, the only thing it does is add confusion to an already confusing industry!


I am more of an advocate of no rules, just write then I have ever been before.  Repeatedly I have heard, “But I’ve heard you have to focus on just one genre.”  Or “I’ve written this story over and over and I just can’t get the hero and heroine to meet on the first page. If I don’t no editor will want to read it”  Or “My crit partner says I can’t do this in romance.”  Stop.  Stop. Stop.


Here’s a rule we can all live by: Write your story, your way, in your time. 


It really is that easy. Don’t allow others to rob your story of your voice.  Don’t allow others to vanillafy your story or your characters.  You are the storyteller here, not them.  Stop putting so much stock in what others say you should be doing and listen to your inner voice, because that is the only one that matters. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying to ignore good advice.  Hell, no!  Embrace that stuff, it’s good, real good.  You can learn from it, emulate it, be one with it.  But only if it resonates with you and your work.  Otherwise?  Fugetaboutit. 


I guess that’s all I have to say right now.  J  So with that, I’m going back under to write. 






  1. Edie

    Karin, thanks for saying this. I am writing it my way, and worried that it’s not like anyone else’s. I really, really needed this.

  2. Carol Burnside

    Love this sentiment. Too often we hear something is a RULE when it should be a GUIDELINE or even a suggestion.

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  3. Margaret

    I so agree with this sentiment. When you write the story the way it should be written your passion shines through, and with that passion, your voice.
    There is no guarentee you’ll sell, but at least you’ll be a happier writer for it.

  4. B.E. Sanderson

    Sing it, sister. Newer writers–myself included–can get trapped in the whole ‘writing rules’ thing, and it can totally derail the process. Once I stopped angsting out over ‘The Rules’, I became a much better and happier writer.

  5. B.E. Sanderson

    That didn’t come out right. I didn’t mean I’m a newer writer, only that I got trapped when I was a newer writer.

    Need. More. Coffee.

  6. HollyD

    This is perfect timing. I have my critique group meeting Tuesday night. I use the helpful comments and toss the others but when I first started going I thought they were right about everything, I soon wisened up. Thanks, Karin for the timely reminder.

    Happy Writing Everyone!

  7. Laurie Kap

    You have no idea how much I needed to hear, you…anyone, say “No Rules, Just write” right now.
    Great blog

  8. Patricia Barraclough

    I would think that in writing as in life, you would do best being able to say “I did it my way.” It is fine to listen to comments and suggestions, but in the end, you need to do what is best for you.
    “No rules, just write” is a good idea.

  9. Liz Kreger

    Preachy? Not you, Karin! LOL.

    I think I’ve been subconsciously aware that there “are no rules” when it comes to writing and publishing. By the time the newest trend shows up, its done. So you gotta just go with your own flow and write the best book that you can … no matter what the genre or subject.

    Just my own two cents worth of worthless advice.

  10. Charlotte Featherstone

    You got it, Karin! OMG, if everyone wrote the same thing, we’d stop reading romance, or any other book for that matter.

    Let it come from someplace deep inside you and just go with the flow. Writing is heartfelt, that’s what editors respond to.

    Um,just finished Stefan’s book. Sorry it took so long, but I had deadlines. And let me tellyou, waiting so long to read this was soooooo worth it. OMG, I’m in total lust, and love!

  11. Karin

    hey Charlotte, glad you liked him!

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