(warning, mini unintended rant ahead)
I’m not sure if it’s the time of year, seasonal depression and all, this crappy economy, or what, but there seems to be a lot of depressed writers out there. Almost to the point of an epidemic. I get some of the reasons. Rejection hurts. It makes us feel, well, rejected. Not good enough. Like we have failed and/or are a failure. But we have to remember there are other reasons for a rejection other than not good enough. I know lot’s of writers who are more than good enough. Hell, I’d cut my hands off to write like them! Yet, they have been unable to sell in this current market.
But we have to work through it. Work being the optimum word here. It’s all work. Life is work!
I’ve been depressed before, mostly hormonally induced, and usually it only lasts a day or two at the longest and luckily the occurrences are rare. I’ve been very sad before, but not severely depressed (not that I can remember anyway). I don’t have days where I don’t want to get out of bed (unless I’m being very lazy!), or feel as if my life has no meaning. Maybe I’m too arrogant. I don’t look to others to make me happy or for justification. I am just me, at my core, a good person, and have no difficulty if someone doesn’t like me. I figure it’s their loss not mine.
I’ve noticed that a lot of folks who are starved for attention tend to get depressed easily, but I wonder—is that just a way to get attention? These types seem to be more sickly than most, or when you talk to them they have the, I’m-at-death’s-door-delivery. A cry for attention? Or am I being insensitive? I’ll be the first to admit, I’m not the, “Oh, are-you-alright-what’s-wrong-let-me-help-you,” type. As in, I don’t cater to those who are looking for attention. I’m there with bells on if someone needs something and is willing to work hard to get it. It’s what I do. To a fault. Hey, I was 2008 RWA Pro Mentor of the Year! But I don’t seem to have much tolerance for the woe is me crowd. I can’t relate. I can’t relate to quitters either. Or those who whine about how hard they have it but neglect to look in the mirror and realize they haven’t been willing to do the work to actually get it.
It’s all about doing the work. Not giving up, forcing oneself to get up each morning and taking meaningful steps toward your goal. No matter what the goal is. A new job, writing a chapter, going to school. If one is not willing to do the work, how on earth can one expect the reward? Who do these people think they are and why do they think the working hard motto doesn’t apply to them? I guess that’s denial. I know a person who has had several, ok, more than several, many jobs in a certain industry since they began working. This person gets hired with high hopes and within months they find their hours are cut, they aren’t making the money everyone else is, and somehow, this is always the management’s fault. Hmmm. Funny, the other folks who are willing to do the work don’t have that problem with the management. The very sad part is, these types of people don’t understand it’s them, not the world.
This turns into a woe is me episode and then the depression follows and then they walk around all sulky with their chins dragging on the floor, and well, I just really want to kick some sense into them. But that is their cycle, what they do, who they are. I stay very far away from those types of people. Unfortunately there are a few of these types sprinkled throughout my family, and I’m the insensitive bad guy because I want nothing to do with their negativeness. Yeah, whatever. I so do not have time for being a cheerleader for a team that isn’t willing to practice.
OK, so this blog did not end up anywhere near how I had envisioned it. It was going to be an uplifting, You can do it, post! Not a get off your whiney ass and just freaking do it, post.
Ugh. Sorry, but to those of you who need to get off your ass and just do it, take heart, it’s easy. Just drop the bullshit excuses and make today the day you begin your new way of life. (yes, it really is that simple. It’s a choice. You’re either in or you’re out, only you can make that decision for yourself.)
To those of you who are doing the work and feeling frustrated, (and that is who this blog was intended for) keep working hard. Each step is one step closer to your goal, whatever that goal may be. Do not allow naysayers to interfere in your quest. Do not allow anyone for any reason to deter you from what you want. It’s yours, but nothing worth having in this life comes easy, most especially to the ones who are in for the long haul!
Happy Monday! 🙂
Karin* who is feeling happy and sassy today. We had a scare yesterday with my FIL and I am just so very happy he is going to be okay. It’s times like this that always gives me cause for pause, and to realize how good and precious life is, so I get irritated at those who waste so much time being self-induced miserable and blaming the world for it. Get over it and LIVE! Life is a miracle!